Arrogance and Toxicity: Tracing Roots Back to Childhood

Arrogance and Toxicity: Tracing Roots Back to Childhood

The other day, I was chatting with someone who mentioned that his boss, the Chief Growth Officer, has been a significant source of stress and anxiety for many people in their organization.

Let’s call this person Pramod. He has been with XYZ Company for five years as a VP of Marketing. His boss insists on being involved in all business decisions, expects constant updates, and dictates performance ratings for Pramod’s team.

Pramod loves his company and is well-paid, so he doesn’t want to leave. He also hasn’t shared his feedback with senior management for obvious reasons.

His boss, Mr. Snob, comes across as egoistic, narcissistic, and toxic. He appears to have a superiority complex, but deep down, he might be suffering from an inferiority complex. To mask his fears, he controls others through power and intimidation.

Mr. Snob was likely a pampered and spoiled child. Many children today get annoyed upon hearing a ‘no.’

When a child throws tantrums after being denied something, it’s a red flag for parents to address. Unchecked, this behavior can lead to narcissism and toxicity in adulthood.

Pramod’s boss may have been a problem child, expecting to be the center of attention and throwing tantrums when ignored.

How to Deal with Toxic Bosses:

1. Avoid Arguments: Don’t engage in arguments with such people. They won’t let you win and will keep you stressed.
2. Focus on Performance: Your performance is key to progressing in life. Focus on what you can control and let go of what you can’t.
3. Self and Team Development: Spend time developing yourself and your team to keep the focus on performance and avoid mental stress.
4. Listen and Share Views: Listen to your boss and share your views, but don’t expect them to be accepted.
5. Let Your Work Speak: When your work gets noticed by the organization and senior management, such bosses may back off.
6. Stay Calm: Manage your temper and ego. If you need to express anger, talk to friends or write a letter to your boss and discard it.

When things go out of control, I encourage you to gather the courage to share direct feedback with senior management and look for better opportunities elsewhere.

Toxicity won’t take you anywhere. Focus on being your true self and doing your best!